I know for me personally... I had absolutely no sexual awareness prior to the age of 27. Oh yeah, I had sex, but it certainly wasn't anything like what I am capable of having now. Back then, it wasn't about my needs or pleasure... it was all about "sex" and making sure he orgasmed. Needless to say, my views have changed.. and I don't think that was possible until I experienced a few things in life that lead me to the realization that my needs matter.

Yeah, sex when I was a teen was FUN.. the young guy I shared my first experiences with was up for anything... BUT.... looking back.. I see the things that were lacking... the things that men only gain with experience and self awareness. Back then.. the ultimate goal was orgasm... as we age.. I think the focus changes... the goal isn't orgasm anymore (tho that remains a wonderful reward)... more intimacy... more passion... kinda hard to put into words...

Now.. it isn't that I wouldn't become intimately involved with a younger man, I have met many young men who seem to have a stronger self awareness than many of their counterparts... but I tend to be more attracted to men who are a bit older than myself... (late 30's on) and aren't so eager to hit the orgasm as they are to enjoy all the aspects that lead up to it